I imagine that many of you have made New Year's resolutions about time, family and losing weight. But, what about your BDSM life? Are you where you want to be? Do you want to grow more? Do you have a partner already or are you looking for one? How much have you learned over this past year?

Here is a list of things I think should be worked on continuously, throughout the year. If you are new or just starting out, it would be a great idea to review them yourself and with your partner so you can use them as a guide and add your own items and ideas that fit your lifestyle.

1. Renew your commitment to keeping up your knowledge and skills in your chosen practice of BDSM.

2. Renew your commitment to your Dominant or submissive.

3. Meditate daily to help keep yourself focused.

4. Renew your commitment to keep an open mind.

5. Find new paths to explore.

1. Make a list of books and websites that continuously update their information with fresh articles.

2. Look at the existing rules to see if any additions or changes need to be made.

3. Reevaluate your relationship with your Dom/sub to ensure that both of you are getting what you need and expected out of the relationship.

4. Take the values, rules, and lifestyle of BDSM and shape them to your own needs/likes/wants.

5. Remember there is no fast and steady rule of right and wrong as long as everyone is happy in the relationship. If you believe there is, then you really need to re-evaluate your decision to practice BDSM.

My Padrone and I both wish all of you health, peace, happiness and love for this year and remember my email is always open if you ever have a question or comment.

Best Wishes and Happy New Year!

Marco and Michelle Fegatofi