Warning Signs of a Fake Dominant

Many new people to the world of #BDSM don't have the #education and/or experience to tell the difference of what is considered 'normal' and what is #abuse in the BDSM Lifestyle.

Here is a list of things to look out for that are obvious #signs of an Abuser posing as a Dominant.

• Controlling behavior due to fear of losing their partner.

• Isolating the submissive from family and friends

• Discouraging self sufficient behavior

• Not allowing any social interaction which does not include the Dominant

• Out of control jealousy

• Explosive temper

• Behaves like a spoiled child when not getting his/her way

• Abuses drugs/alcohol

• Does not take responsibility for mistakes

• Uses unhealthy behavior to gain control over the submissive

• Emotional Blackmail - example: Keeping the submissive in a constant state of fear that the relationship will end if they don't get their way.

• Emotional Withdrawal - example: Using the "silent treatment" or physically withdrawing and cutting off all contact rather than communicating and taking responsibility for the situation.

• Withdrawal of affection

• Refusing any/all intimacy as a punishment which can be quite damaging and reinforces the fear that the submissive will lose the relationship unless he/she gives into this type of blackmail.

If your #Dominant shows any of these signs on a consistent basis, please seek advice or help from experienced Dominants or #subs to get an unbiased opinion of the situation.